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The more we embrace our own Divinity, the more our twin flame will be able to manifest in our lives and resonate with our own developed Divinity. We don't need to have anxious knuckles on this process or force the manifestation. The attraction and alliance will be a natural and organic process. We attract what we are. Rather than forcing this attraction from the outside, we acknowledge this is an inside job.

We want to connect with our own joy first and through that process we are more likely to connect with our beloved. We aren't in charge of when or how, but we are in charge of our commitment to actualizing ourselves. This isn't a "The Bachelor" type process. We don't have or want to make this a primarily intellectual process; this is a sacred heart/Divine soul process.

I once said to a vegan friend who was deeply frustrated (read: had strong attachment) because he hadn't found his vegan and nature loving soul mate by mid-life, "Maybe your twin flame is eating a bologna sandwich on white bread in a bowling alley." I was being factitious; in fact, I didn't believe that to be true. I was teasing him about his anxious attachment to the form he wanted his twin flame to manifest in.

If our beloved twin flame has not manifested (or we haven't noticed them in our lives yet) we can guess that we have more preparation work to do. Like the characters in Laura Esquivel's book The Law of Love, some soul searching and releasing of attachment to form may still have to take place in our lives. In order to manifest, we can be gentle and relaxed about the process. This may be contrary to the world view of going out and "making it happen" or "going to get our man/woman". This may be an important lesson in trusting the powerful organic patterns in our lives that will support us if we surrender to them.

Rather, we open our hearts, love ourselves just because we are and commit to love and compassion on our journey of self discovery. We affirm the desire but release the desperate desire (not attractive!). We needn't worry or be fearful about this process. We have chosen “wrong” before because we were fearful, not loving ourselves and we probably needed the lesson that those relationships offered. In fact, we may have found our match, Mr. or Ms. Right, but they aren’t Mr. or Ms. Right Now.

Whether we believe in the “twin flame” or “soul mate” concept or not (which has been written about by great thinkers such as Plato and Edgar Cayce), we want to keep moving towards authenticity, empowerment and self love in our lives so that which we want to manifest in our lives can come forward.

Jeanine Marie Austin, Ph.D (c) 2007
http://www.SimplyDivineSolutions.com